25 Biblical Questions You Should Ask Before "I Do"

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Picture this: You're six months into marriage, and you discover your spouse has completely different views on money, parenting, or spiritual leadership than you thought. The butterflies of engagement have worn off, and you're facing real-life decisions that feel impossible to navigate together.

What if I told you that most marriage conflicts could be prevented by asking the right questions before you walk down the aisle?

Every year, thousands of Christian couples enter marriage with hearts full of love but lacking the crucial conversations that build unshakeable foundations. They focus on wedding planning instead of marriage preparation, on the ceremony instead of the covenant.

The result? According to recent studies, even among Christian couples, nearly 40% of marriages end in divorce, and many more struggle with unmet expectations, unresolved conflicts, and unfulfilled dreams.

But here's the good news: It doesn't have to be this way.

Why Biblical Questions Matter More Than You Think

When my husband and I got engaged, we thought we knew everything about each other. We'd dated for one year, attended the same church, and shared similar backgrounds. We were so ready to start our "happily ever after."

But two days into marriage, we had our first major fight on way driving to Illinois. Then came disagreements about holiday traditions, career priorities, and even keeping the house clean. We realized we'd spent more time planning our wedding menu than discussing our life vision.

That's when we discovered the power of intentional, biblical conversation before marriage. These aren't just random questions – they're carefully crafted discussions rooted in Scripture that reveal heart attitudes, core values, and expectations that will shape your entire marriage. Unfortunately, our discovered wasn't soon enough and we divorced after 8 years of marriage.

The Foundation: Why Scripture Should Guide Your Preparation

Marriage wasn't invented by Hollywood or Hallmark. It was designed by God Himself as the very first institution, even before the church or government. Genesis 2:24 tells us that marriage creates a unique, sacred bond: "That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh."

This "one flesh" unity goes far beyond physical intimacy. It encompasses:

• Emotional oneness – sharing hearts, dreams, and vulnerabilities

• Spiritual oneness – pursuing God together as a team

• Mental oneness – aligning thoughts, values, and decision-making

• Practical oneness – managing life's details with unity

But this kind of unity doesn't happen automatically when you say "I do." It's built through intentional conversation, mutual understanding, and biblical wisdom applied before you're legally bound together.

"Suppose one of you wants to build a tower. Won't you first sit down and estimate the cost to see if you have enough money to complete it?" - Luke 14:28

Jesus used this illustration to talk about following Him, but the principle applies beautifully to

marriage. You wouldn't build a house without blueprints, start a business without a plan, or take a cross-country trip without a map. Why would you enter the most important relationship of your life without thorough preparation?

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